The Power of Association: Who’s Holding Your Ladder

The Power of Association: Who’s Holding Your Ladder

You know that phrase, “Show me your friends, and I’ll tell you who you are”? It may sound cliché, but it still rings true like a bell in a quiet room. The people we surround ourselves with aren't just companions — they’re mirrors, mentors, and sometimes... messes. But in this life, the power of association can either unlock doors or lock you in cages you never meant to enter.

Let’s talk about it.

In our day-to-day life, we often overlook just how deeply we’re influenced by the people in our circle. Ever notice how you start picking up a friend’s slang, their habits — even their mindset? That’s not a coincidence. That’s the power of proximity.

If you walk with people who complain all the time, negativity becomes second nature. But if you surround yourself with those who speak life, dream big, and live with purpose? You start catching that fire too.

Think about it: You don’t have to steal to be seen as a thief. Just be constantly seen around those who do. That’s the weight of association — it can shape how people perceive you and how you start to perceive yourself.

Let’s go biblical for a moment.

Look at Ruth and Naomi — a bond built on love, loyalty, and vision. Ruth’s decision to stay with Naomi didn’t just change her life — it aligned her with destiny. From that association, a legacy was born that would lead to King David and eventually, Jesus.

Now flip it: Samson and Delilah — a tragic example of how one toxic relationship can destroy a God-given purpose. Samson was anointed, chosen, and strong. But he let the wrong person close, and she used that proximity to dismantle him from the inside out.

Not everyone close to you is cheering you on — some are quietly studying you to know where your strength lies... and how to cut it off.

If I’m being honest, many of the biggest shifts in my life happened because of who I was walking with. Some people helped me find clarity in my career, others helped me relocate to a new country, and a few — the special ones — walked me back into the arms of God when I had drifted.

I call them my destiny helpers.

They didn’t always look flashy or speak in parables. Sometimes they just reminded me to pray, or sent me a random opportunity link, or simply believed in me when I didn’t believe in myself. That’s the kind of association that heals and propels.

Here’s another truth: Not every association is forever.

Some people come into your life for a season, a lesson, or a reason. And that’s okay. What matters is recognizing when the season has changed.

As you grow, your circle must evolve. What used to feed you might start draining you. That’s when you need discernment to know who belongs in your now, and who was only meant for your then.

You ever walk into a room and instantly feel lighter, more motivated, just by being around certain people? That’s not magic — it’s alignment. Being around God-centered, faith-filled, purpose-driven people can recalibrate your own spirit. They remind you who you are and what you’re capable of becoming.

On the flip side, the wrong crowd can drain your energy, shift your mindset, and dull your light. That’s why you must guard your circle like your life depends on it — because spiritually, emotionally, and mentally, it does.

So today, I challenge you:

Look at your circle.

Who’s sharpening you?

Who’s stretching you?

Who’s holding you accountable?

And more importantly — who’s holding your ladder as you climb?

Your future may depend on that answer.

“You can’t fly with eagles if you’re scratching the ground with chickens.”