Navigating Friendships in Japan: A Journey of Growth and Connection

Navigating Friendships in Japan: A Journey of Growth and Connection

Making friendships in Japan has been an interesting, and at times, challenging experience. Between the language barrier, cultural differences, and people’s generally busy schedules, it hasn’t been the easiest road. But truth be told, forming friendships has never been the simplest thing for me, even back in Zimbabwe.

I’ve always preferred to keep my circle small. Letting people in has been a journey of its own—let’s just say trust issues are something I’ve been actively working on. I thrive best when surrounded by people whose energies align with mine, people who genuinely have my best interests at heart.

When I arrived in Japan, I thought maybe I’d naturally connect with fellow Black women, but I quickly realized that I had my own hurdles to navigate first. Whether it was adjusting to life here, budgeting for social outings (because, let’s be honest, Japan can be pricey), or simply figuring out my own space, I found myself holding back. However, as 2025 approaches, I feel like I need to embrace change—step out more, meet new people, and open myself up to learning and growth.

Despite the challenges, I am grateful for the strong friendships I do have. My closest friend in Japan may not be physically present all the time, but our sisterhood is unshakable. We’re there for each other in ways that truly matter. And back home in Zimbabwe, my friends continue to be my biggest cheerleaders, reminding me that distance does not weaken bonds—it only strengthens them when the foundation is solid.

As for making Japanese friends? That remains an open-ended question. Culturally, many Japanese people tend to keep to themselves, and the language barrier doesn’t make things any easier. There’s also the unspoken “coolness” factor—if you don’t fit into a certain mold, it can feel like you’re invisible. But I won’t force it. I’ll let the universe work its magic, and if meaningful friendships are meant to happen, they will.

For now, I choose to embrace what I have, while making room for new experiences. Here’s to growth, connection, and the friendships that stand the test of time, no matter where in the world we are.